Being kind has such a power, that it can change someone’s entire perspective of what type of person you are. We are living in a time with so many differences in the world. It ranges from spiritual beliefs, politics, parenting techniques, breastfeeding, types of music, ect……. We can’t even make a joke now days without at least one person getting offended by it. We share a picture of our kids online, and have to worry about someone pointing out that the snack they are eating isn’t organic, or that they shouldn’t be drinking from a sippy anymore. Not everything needs criticism.
“Most comedy is based on getting a laugh at somebody else’s expense. And I find that that’s just a form of bullying in a major way. So I want to be an example that you can be funny and be kind, and make people laugh without hurting somebody else’s feelings.”
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You know what the great thing about being kind is? It costs you absolutely nothing, but you could gain so much from it. It’s possible that people are always in a self defense mode, so they need to attack before someone can be mean to them. It may be that they grew up in a very negative environment and don’t know any better. Whatever the reason may be that some people always need to be rude, condescending, or critical, we can always choose kindness. I’m going to share some tips on how you can be kind, and soon you will see the change in your life. It will bring that positive energy right back into your own day to day life.
Respect others views
It’s not easy to live in a world with so many judgmental people. No matter what you do in life, there will always be someone thinking or telling you how your doing it wrong. I have my beliefs, my morals, my points of view on many controversial things. You know what I do though? I keep OPINIONS to myself, unless someone is asking me up front what I think about a certain subject. I mean, I am human and I do gossip from time to time to a friend or family member about people’s choices, but what I will not do is treat someone differently because of it. Or automatically assume the worst of them as a person because of a lifestyle that is not the same as mine. No one is less than, because of their differences, and we all deserve respect. Unless you have done something wrongful to me personally, I will be kind, offer help, be a friend, you name it. That’s how it should be. We should all be someone that people can look at and say, that right there, is a good person.
Have good manners
This goes back to growing up and being taught to say “Thank You.” Having good manners is like a gateway to being kind because it shows respect to someone, especially strangers. Being kind can be through a simple yes ma’am, yes sir, please, and of course as mentioned above, thank you. It may not seem like much at the time, but you will be surprised how much this is lacked, and how you could bring someone a smile to someone’s face with just these words.
This doesn’t mean you need to walk around and tell people at random and be uncomfortable. (unless you are comfortable doing that) I just mean when you come in contact with someone, use the opportunity to make them feel good. You can be checking out at the store and tell the cashier that you appreciate they’re quickness. Or when you see a parent with a kid that is screaming and having a hard time, kindly whisper “your doing great, you’ve got this.” When you have a chance just tell someone something nice, they will go home thinking about it and it will be a good thought because of you.
Sometimes when people post things online we want to say something nice but feel stuck, not sure what to say. If someone you know is going through a hard time, they don’t necessarily need an answer. Maybe they just need to be told that they are strong and capable to overcome. They could just want to know they aren’t alone, and someone can relate to them. When you see someone sad, it’s possible they don’t want to talk to anyone, but you can send them a positive uplifting quote, meme, or a card. Or the least, walk by and acknowledge them and wish them a good rest of their day.
Help someone in need
If you see an elderly person loading groceries offer to help them, or to at least to put away the basket. Same with a mom struggling with groceries and kids. When someone shares with you that a family lost a home to a fire and are in need, donate what you can, even if it’s a small bag with some food. Help when you able to, when you can, if you can. If you can offer help with material things, offer your time, and volunteer. It’s a great way to give back because one day it might be you who is in need.
This can be particularly hard for people who always have a need to fix things. When someone needs to vent, they don’t always want someone to try and give them an answer. They just need an ear, someone to say, I hear you. Sit with them, hear them out, tell them how amazing they are for being where they are now, or how strong you see them and how much you believe in them to get through it. Listening can save someone’s life, so don’t miss the chance to be that for a person in need.
Think before you speak
This. Ok so lets get real, real quick. We all have anger issues, I know I do. So when we are in a position, that someone says or does somethings that doesn’t settle right with us, what happens? Majority of the time, we react negatively. This is my struggle at the moment and I know it, I react very quickly and it’s hardly ever a good one. Or have you found yourself in a position where you make a joke about something, like for example about special needs people, not knowing one of the people listening has a kid with special needs. Ouch. It’s harsh and uncomfortable. There comes a time that we need to be empathetic to others, and not say certain things out of spite, or reaction, or anger. It’s going to happen, and a lot. What we can do is just be more aware of the things we say to others. Will it help them or hurt them? Will this encourage or discourage? Will it bring them joy or sorrow? Everyday just practice on being better about your words, in person, through text, and even online. Think about tomorrow, and if you may regret what you say. No one is perfect, but we are all capable of at least being kind.
At the end of the day, we will forget our manners from time to time. We will react, and regret things daily. The only change we can truly make is to be intentional with doing better. It isn’t something that will just happen after one or two times. We have to practice it daily, and if we forget one day, try harder after that, just don’t stop trying. Where we fail others the most is by expecting the world to change, when the change truly starts with us.