Wow, this year was harsh wasn’t it? I mean I think everyone can agree that it was pretty rough for most of us. I’m not sure why, but i’m hoping it was getting us all ready for a comeback for 2020! So here is my Top Ten List for Lessons Learned for this crazy year.
1. Your going to lose friends, and it’s ok.
Friends come and go, thats a given. There are going to be some harder to lose than others, but you will get through it. As we grow and change with age, so do our interests and priorities, it’s only natural that we would grow apart. Whether it was a fall out, or just life moving you in different directions, the people who really matter will always be there. Wish them the best, but don’t lose sleep over it.
2. Make time for yourself.
I have started working on this one, and i’m glad I did. It is very important to take care of yourself, because let’s face it, no one else will. Get a facial, go to the movies alone, hit the gym, spend a day at the golf course, get that hair treatment. Whatever it looks like for you, do it, and enjoy it.
3. Don’t be so harsh on yourself.
No one is perfect, and we are all just trying to figure out this thing called life. We are going to mess up, pretty badly. We will disappoint those we love, and we are going to feel like there is no way up. There is, and we need to remember we are human. I’m sure we have forgiven others for some pretty questionable things, so we should be able to do the same for ourselves.
4. You can’t please everyone.
You’ve heard it once and you’ll you hear it many many more times. Are we living it though? It’s actually harder for most people than you think. We want to make everyone happy, make sure they like us. The harder we try to please everyone though, the more pressure and stress we put on ourselves. Let’s remember to take care of ourselves or we won’t be pleasing to anyone in the end.
5. Live and let live.
Just as you would like for others to mind their own, and let you be, we should also do the same. It’s common sense that we would like to advise people we love when they may be making decisions harmful to themselves or others. Generally speaking though, if we spent more time focusing on our own home we would all be that much happier.
6. It’s ok to not be ok.
Life is rough, and we are not ok most of the time. We all have struggles, and go through some trying times. If your going through it, get through it. Don’t let anyone make you feel less than because your in a rough time. Don’t be ashamed that your not 100%, because you will be. Trying times helps us grow stronger. So keep getting stronger, you’ve got this.
7. Love is more than a feeling.
If your still waiting for it to be easy, and full of tingling feelings everyday, you’ll die waiting. Our feelings are always going to deceive us. Once the feeling is gone, we think the love is too. Love is doing for others even when we don’t want to. You choose to love someone daily, do things for them, cherish them, and do acts out of love for them. Choose to love who your with, because it’s much more than just a feeling.
8. Failure isn’t always bad.
How many times did the most famous inventors fail before they got it right? If your feeling like you keep trying and keeping getting pushed back down, maybe it’s just quite not your time. Your being built, molded, and created for something more. Failure just means you haven’t got it just yet, but you will, do not give up.
9. Grudges only cause you pain.
How hard is it to let go of something that caused you pain? Extremely. Seems almost impossible at times. For most, it is, so they live with it day in and day out. They live with the pain and resentment, the hurt, the frustration, and the anger. What we don’t see though is it is also holding you back from growing, healing, and moving forward to bigger and better things. Let it go, it’s only a revolving pain for you. You deserve better.
10. This too shall pass.
This year, the heartache, the loss of a loved one, the betrayal, all of the bad, will pass. It won’t necessarily go away, it will just be a little more easier to live with. You will learn to get through the days, you will start to smile more at the memories and not just cry. You will get stronger, and learn for next time. Most importantly, you will get to live, keep going, and know you got through it.
Wherever you are in life, it’s a season, a time you will remember in the years to come. No matter what age you are, just go for it. Try to achieve your goals, crush them, then make more. Life is such a gift that we all take advantage of daily. Take care of your mind, body, and soul. Exercise, eat the vegetables, drink more water, and love like there is no tomorrow. Here is to a much better year for everyone in 2020!